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Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 6th, 2017, 7:58 am

Just thought I would run this past you guys as you do come up with some good ideas ....

My good friend, (who, for my 70th gave me the cooking experience day (wonderful ! :tu: ) is now 60. I am doing the (informal) dinner party for her and 3/4 other friends in a couple of weeks (I have already posted about this) ... but now the big problem is what to buy a 60 year old who lives on a narrow boat, is a very plain dresser, never wears jewellery or make-up of any kind and doesn't have any hobbies apart from horse riding .. She's not hard up, has a very well off partner, so really wants for nothing...

We are really scratching our heads .. my thoughts were tickets to the Horse of Year show, but she was already going :( So far we have found one of those Birth year memorial pictures and not much else :td:

Answers on a postcard please ;) :lol:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby WWordsworth » October 6th, 2017, 8:04 am

I would say definitely an "experience" rather than a "thing"

A day out of some sort, with a nice lunch?
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Pepper Pig » October 6th, 2017, 8:06 am

A day at the races? (Somewhere she can get a good look at the horses I mean). We did this for a friend's 60th at Kempton Park but I think that's closing down. Maybe Windsor or Ascot?

Anything on here any good? https://www.thehorsediva.co.uk/

A Tea for Two voucher? I'm told The Grove is good.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 6th, 2017, 8:08 am

thanks both, I will put those suggestions to the other guests .... :tu:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby scullion » October 6th, 2017, 8:15 am

If you're clubbing together for it what about a balloon flight? My partner and I were bought one last year and it was brilliant.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 6th, 2017, 8:36 am

I'll add that to the suggestion list... perhaps we can give her a choice ;) :tu:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Seatallan » October 6th, 2017, 10:27 am

Does she grow things in pots on the roof of the boat? Just wondering about some lovely hand-made planters or similar.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Hope » October 6th, 2017, 11:05 am

Depending on her riding experience, you could get her a horse experience day. Or a lesson with a top trainer.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Busybee » October 6th, 2017, 11:38 am

A day out Point to Pointing............great fun for anyone who enjoys horses but doesn’t want the fancy ness of a trip to the ‘normal’ races. Followed by a pub meal somewhere.

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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Ratatouille » October 6th, 2017, 11:49 am

IF she is well off how about giving her something so she can help someone else?

Perhaps something like this - there seem to be places all round the country, this is just one example.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Herbidacious » October 6th, 2017, 1:14 pm

Sorry Rats, but I would be very cross, insulted even, if someone gave me something to give away :? Especially if it involved someone else was deciding who I gave my 'present' to. I prefer to donate to charity quietly and privately, and choose my own causes.

MIL went through a phase of doing this, and yes, on the grounds that we didn't need anything, as far as she could see. But presents aren't just about need, are they?

I appreciate not everyone thinks this way, though.

Does she really like nothing but riding? What about theatre vouchers? Flexible and can be used according to taste.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby suffolk » October 6th, 2017, 1:36 pm

Herbidacious wrote:Sorry Rats, but I would be very cross, insulted even, if someone gave me something to give away :? Especially if it involved someone else was deciding who I gave my 'present' to. I prefer to donate to charity quietly and privately, and choose my own causes.

MIL went through a phase of doing this, and yes, on the grounds that we didn't need anything, as far as she could see. But presents aren't just about need, are they?

I appreciate not everyone thinks this way, though.



I've known others feel like this Herbi ... a family member was livid when another family member (much better off financially) gave charity donations on behalf of other family members. He felt that, despite being quite hard pressed financially, he did give to his chosen charities when he was able, whereas the person giving the 'present' was able to give much more but in doing this was being a bit ostentatious and it was probably all going through the business and being set against tax anyway.

I feel it would be much better if it worked the other way around and someone said ... please don't give me a present, just make a donation to **** instead.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Ratatouille » October 6th, 2017, 1:53 pm

Herbie and Suffs, received and understood. I have, in the past, asked a close relative/friend of the recipient what they thought they would like for a present and twice recently I have been told there is absolutely nothing how about a sponsorship or a donation? I We gave my B-I-L who is indeed very wealthy a toilet in a named village in Africa. He was tickled to buts, especially as we bought a doll's house loo and wrapped it a huge box with the gift certificate.

For our GW we asked for no gifts but when a couple of people insisted we asked them to donate to our favourite charity or have a tree planted in our name.

I quite appreciate that it could offend some but presumed that that possibility would be checked on first.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Ratatouille » October 6th, 2017, 2:02 pm

PS my other fall back position is a magazine/periodical subscription. They last the whole year! !
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby suffolk » October 6th, 2017, 2:30 pm

Ratatouille wrote:I quite appreciate that it could offend some but presumed that that possibility would be checked on first.


One would have thought so ... but some people have no ability to empathize and have hides like rhinos :rolleyes:

The ideas you've quoted sound absolutely lovely :hug:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 6th, 2017, 3:19 pm

thanks everyone ... she goes riding every weekend and they often go out and end up at a pub; a day at the races sounds good .. something that perhaps we can all join her on which should make it more enjoyable ..I will ask the others about the balloon flight (her partner is a helicopter engineer, so may think this is a bit tame :rolleyes: )
Theatre vouchers may suit .. All things for consideration ;) :tu: :tu: :tu:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Herbidacious » October 6th, 2017, 7:00 pm

Yes that's a good idea too Rats. I imagine I am a little over sensitive because it was my MIL (and BIL as well, actually) who did this and there was a felt criticism implicit in it. However, my mother did once buy a friend a box of greetings cards as a gift, which I thought was a bit odd too - giving something that is to be given away again i.e. it's not really for the person you give it to. Naturally when I said "You can't do that" she told me that of course she could. :D ..
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 6th, 2017, 7:05 pm

The balloon flight has been approved by one of the other friends, in fact she lives close to where you can do them (Leighton Buzzard), so her project this weekend is to get details ;) .... looks like this might be another excuse for a meet up, watch the balloon go up, then celebrate with a meal afterwards .... ;) :lol: :bounce: :tu: :hi5: :hug:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby miss mouse » October 6th, 2017, 7:22 pm

Herbidacious wrote: However, my mother did once buy a friend a box of greetings cards as a gift, which I thought was a bit odd too - giving something that is to be given away again i.e. it's not really for the person you give it to.


It is useful and far preferable to to the junk I have been given over the years and am supposed to treasure. Am I the only one to hate this stuff? If i want/need something I will buy it and if I can't afford it then a fiver towards it would be nice. Thanks.

One year apparently I gave a nurse a bicycle, before that I bought a goat for a family. Hmm. Really?

I am very suspicious about the various charities, this stuff should be done by governments. Ah, I see the flaw there.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Grasshopper » October 6th, 2017, 8:14 pm

How about a trip to a horse show? Or a carriage ride somewhere nice?
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Amber » October 6th, 2017, 8:47 pm

May be too late but how about a day/holiday here...http://www.cumbrianheavyhorses.com/
(I’ve only heard good reports about them)
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby suffolk » October 6th, 2017, 9:22 pm

I've heard good reports about them too :D
Depends on the Birthday Girl's taste in horses ... some like fine boned thoroughbreds etc, I like chunky cobs and massive heavy horses.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Ratatouille » October 7th, 2017, 8:30 am

I had another thought in the middle of the night, as one does!

I have given 2 people paintings of their houses - both done by local artists. Perhaps a painting of their narrow boat? But maybe they wouldn't have anywhere to hang it :lol: :lol:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 7th, 2017, 8:41 am

Cumbria would be too far, but we may find somewhere nearer ... the painting is a good idea, but too late to get that done now, although perhaps something could be done with a photograph (shame she's now in a marina and not still on the canal where I was moored) .. Anyway food for thought and thanks for all your suggestions :tu: :tu: :tu:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Ratatouille » October 7th, 2017, 9:01 am

Pat/ I have used these people and was very satisfied.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Seatallan » October 7th, 2017, 9:59 am

One potential problem with the balloon flight idea (having done one myself) is that weather conditions have to be spot on for flights to take place so you can't guarantee whether/when you'll strike lucky. We managed to get our flight on the third attempt but it took the best part of four months (the problem is that when a flight is cancelled you have to re-book and the flights get booked up for months in advance so you have to find a free slot that works for you). I just mention it because if you're planning a do afterwards you may need to sort it all out at the last minute.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 7th, 2017, 11:02 am

Thanks Sam ... I will pass this info on .... :tu:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby StokeySue » October 7th, 2017, 4:11 pm

And be sure she is up for one
I can think of few things I want less than a balloon flight, I don't do heights
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 7th, 2017, 6:23 pm

I think we may end up giving her some choices without incurring any costs first ...
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby miss mouse » October 7th, 2017, 7:16 pm

StokeySue wrote:I can think of few things I want less than a balloon flight, I don't do heights


Me too or nor me, a bit muddled there. Terrible thought which leaves more balloons for others to enjoy.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 7th, 2017, 7:42 pm

We think we have solved it .... a day at the races ... 2 course Lunch for 2 at Lingfield with a glass of prosecco and the price also includes entrance and race card. We need to get the boyfriend involved, so that the rest of us can go there too and surprise the birthday girl ... this will probably be next year now ... Phew, good to have found something ;) -
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby TeresaFoodie » October 8th, 2017, 8:07 am

That sounds perfect! What a lovely gift to receive if you like your Ned Stallions! :grin: (A family phrase here for horses...)
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby suffolk » October 8th, 2017, 8:28 am

PatsyMFagan wrote:We think we have solved it .... a day at the races ... 2 course Lunch for 2 at Lingfield with a glass of prosecco and the price also includes entrance and race card. We need to get the boyfriend involved, so that the rest of us can go there too and surprise the birthday girl ... this will probably be next year now ... Phew, good to have found something ;) -


:idea: Maybe if you're going as a group you could organise a little sweepstake?
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Seatallan » October 8th, 2017, 11:59 am

Excellent plan Patsy and damn good suggestion Suffs! :D :tu:
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby earthmaiden » October 8th, 2017, 1:45 pm

That sounds an excellent plan Patsy!

I agree that the thought of being given a token for an 'experience' terrifies me, there are so many experiences I would happily forgo.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Ratatouille » October 8th, 2017, 2:41 pm

Good work Pat. I'd love that. Always loved going tot he races.
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby Grasshopper » October 8th, 2017, 6:27 pm

Patsy - ask and the Wildies deliver! ;)
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Re: Birthday present....for 60 year old

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 9th, 2017, 3:10 pm

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