I'll vote as always, my Daughter's first time too.
I feel its important to have my say, and so far Dd thinks so too.
If you think it's like attending a funeral, I can only assume you've not been to any, no one has died, and I won't be grieving either parent, several friends, people I cared for in my previous job, or a close friend's 9yr old.
A brass band, or woodwind with your clarinet Tezza, perhaps bagpipes here in Scotland, aren't needed, it takes 5 minutes, tops.
Whilst I rarely share publicly what my vote will be, and will keep to that, it won't be Tory, the way they have treated disabled people is disgusting, and I am one of those.
Tezza, with everything that has happened to you, I'm surprised you don't want to say a big no to them too.