Lighting a candle

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby PatsyMFagan » October 29th, 2018, 9:20 pm

StokeySue wrote:I had understood that Patsy was going to Canada for a funeral, but not that it was Lawrie’s, who I remeber hearing about when his mother died. RIP Lawrie and have a good trip Pat


I'm back … a bit jet lagged, but seem to have picked up some kind of bug as for the last few days, everything I have eaten has caused stomach cramps and gone straight through me … thank goodness I had upgraded to Premium class so was able to almost fully recline in the seat and got about 4 hours sleep on the way home. Unfortunately I had to decline the alcohol that was on offer ;) ;) ;) :( :( :(

Lawrie had a magnificent send off with about 150 people at his memorial service, including about 30 Masons .. Couldn't help thinking that he might still have been here today if he had accepted chemotherapy when it was first advised, instead of putting his faith in Naturopathy, a 'miracle cure' clinic in Mexico and a Faith healer called 'John of God' who apparently cures up to 25,000 people on a regular basis (0n the basis that Chemo kills you :rolleyes: ) … :cry: :cry: :cry:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » October 29th, 2018, 9:38 pm

Glad you’re home safe and sound Patsy ... hopefully getting back to normal will get your system back to normal.
If sounds as well if you all gave Lawrie a wonderful send off ... a shame that he opted out of the possibility of staying around a bit longer but he did it the way he wanted ...

Now make sure you get some rest :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » October 30th, 2018, 9:47 am

Take care Pat. As Suffs says he did it his way, as everyone is entitled to. :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » October 30th, 2018, 1:03 pm

Welcome home Patsy - hope you feel better soon. :hug: :wave:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » December 1st, 2018, 8:51 pm

I am lighting several metaphorical candles for friends - one whose husband died this week. He was in his 80s (she much younger) and was diagnosed with dementia is year. It progressed rapidly. Another for another friend one of whose best friends died this week. She was in her 20s.
Another friend’s father in law’s cancer has returned aggressively. There’s not a lot they can do.
Finally my mother’s neighbour. He’s in his late 60s but not a well man. (But a lovely one. I have known him since I was 4.) He had to have surgery last week and now has a chest infection. Serious, as they delayed surgery because he has severe isssues with his lungs.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » December 1st, 2018, 9:22 pm

Herbi :hug:

I’ve been doing a set of address labels for my Xmas cards. I couldn’t find the most recent label document, so I started with Xmas 2008

So far 6 dead and 3 dying on the list
I, and most of them, are not that old - in fact not pension age in my case
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » December 2nd, 2018, 6:07 am

Thoughts are with all experiencing loss :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 2nd, 2018, 2:17 pm

I have had to sit down quietly and work all this out recently. It seems that when one reaches a 'certain age', loss becomes far more prevalent than before as contemporaries pass and one has to decide how one is going to deal with this thing which is inevitable without being pulled down into the depths of despair. How one does it depends on culture, beliefs and disposition but I look on it as being something to do quite early, like making a will or setting up a POA so that you are ready. It has helped a lot.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » December 2nd, 2018, 5:05 pm

It has hit us very much this weekend.
The friend who has advanced myeloma whic apparently has progressed to his spine after 6 years remission, Another with secondary breats cancer w ho has suddenly developed worrying symptoms and the third who has undiagnosed osteoporosis and is in hospital in the UK because her right hip just crumbled on Friday.

Our card list was down 8 from last year so it will be good to hear from any old friends!

So my candle is now already lit and i am feeling thankful that we are both still relatively healthy and still have each other,
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » December 2nd, 2018, 6:55 pm

I suppose I treat the lighting a candle’ as meaning saying a prayer, which I know is not to everyone’s whatever. There seems to be a lot of suffering around at the moment :(
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Zosherooney » December 2nd, 2018, 9:21 pm

Thoughts for those who are suffering......

EM we have just done wills and POA's and we are glad we have. One morning during one of our visits to the solicitor, she explained she was awaiting a very important call she had been waiting ages for and when it happened, could we please leave her office for a short time.... The call came, we left and returned later. Transpires, the lady had no POA and was in hospital and solicitor had to talk to the ladies surgeon for her care..... We should all make arrangements..... It could leave relatives in awful positions.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 2nd, 2018, 9:46 pm

Yes, it is a good idea. I really meant that preparing oneself for advancing years mentally is a good idea too.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby jrc » December 2nd, 2018, 10:59 pm

My health hasn’t been great recently but today I was determined to do the Santa’s on the Run in aid of the Pilgrims Hospice.I had already registered some time ago. Last year there were 803 of us and we raised £26 000 in one morning. Today there were over 1 000 of us running.

Very bitter sweet moment as a very special friend passed away last night. She had been very ill and we knew there was not going to be a happy outcome but thoughts have been about her and her family today.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby jrc » December 2nd, 2018, 11:28 pm

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Waiting at the start line. I am the one in red. :lol:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » December 3rd, 2018, 9:46 am

Jrc, well done on the Santa run :hi5:
Condolences on the loss of your friend
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 3rd, 2018, 11:39 am

Brilliant effort jrc - but do please look after yourself!

So sorry to hear sad news though. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » December 3rd, 2018, 12:13 pm

Lovely pic jrc- well done you! Really hope your health situation improves.

So sorry to hear your sad news. It's hard to lose a friend no matter how expected it is and all the more poignant somehow, at this time of year. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » December 3rd, 2018, 1:05 pm

It must have been both a sadness and an encouragement for the run jrc. Well done for completing it. No better tribute to your friend. Look after yourself :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Cheezy_Jazzy » December 6th, 2018, 8:50 pm

I am lighting a candle for a work colleague as she has been diagnosed with bowel cancer :cry:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby TeresaFoodie » December 6th, 2018, 10:39 pm

I spotted you before you mentioned you were wearing red jrc.. :hug: Well done on tbe run especially when not feeling great!

Cheezy - and another. :hug: So sad...

Since my little cousin passed in July, my uncle has only just started to communicate with us as they are not close by. They (we!) are still a bit shell shocked. So a candle for Catherine if you have any left please folks. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Chinchilla_lady » December 9th, 2018, 11:38 am

For Grace and her family. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Zosherooney » December 11th, 2018, 6:39 pm

Tomorrow will be 2 years since Dad left this place, where does the time go ? More signed forms went off to the Solicitors today to go to Poland as the banks are not trusting their own rules ! The Spanish are being Spanish & difficult !!!!! Dad would be spinning in his grave if he had one !!!!
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » December 11th, 2018, 7:38 pm

It's always hard Zosh so lots of :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » December 11th, 2018, 7:44 pm

Zosh :hug: from me too
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » December 11th, 2018, 9:20 pm

Zosh :hug:

Candles for Strasbourg- it seems at least 3 dead
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Zosherooney » December 12th, 2018, 7:36 am

Thanks folks, it all just takes sooooooo long.

Yes - Strasbourg - total nutters.......
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » December 12th, 2018, 8:32 am

Absolutely awful and vile. I was going to go the Strasbourg market the weekend I was in Germany, but was too ill.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 12th, 2018, 8:38 am

So sad that so many joyous events are spoilt by a few. Virtual candles lit.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby aero280 » December 12th, 2018, 9:51 am

Thoughts and prayers for our daughter-in-law who went into hospital this morning for some serious head surgery to remove a growth on her pituitary gland. Currently on her way to the operating theatre.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » December 12th, 2018, 9:59 am

Will ... best of luck to your DIL and her medical team Thinking of you all :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » December 12th, 2018, 10:34 am

First for Strasburg. We heard the news just before we went to bed last night. The Christmas market there is so beautiful and ,when we went, so joyous.

Another for your DIL Aero. Our love and thoughts to you all.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » December 12th, 2018, 2:06 pm

Thoughts and prayers for your DIL Aero, and her wider medical team.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby aero280 » December 12th, 2018, 4:24 pm

It took until 11.00am before they started. They couldn't start until a guaranteed bed became free. She is still in theatre. That's 5 hours now, which is what was estimated. Just waiting for news now. On tenterhooks.

Meanwhile three men are sawing holes in our bedroom ceiling :o

Doubly stressed! Do two negatives make a positive?
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 12th, 2018, 5:29 pm

aero - :hug: :hug:.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » December 12th, 2018, 7:44 pm

We are all there with you Aero and family :hug: :hug: :hug: Amongst all the things I despair of, the lack of beds in NHS hospital comes very near the top
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » December 12th, 2018, 8:21 pm

Found a few of these in the hug-pot.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Amber » December 12th, 2018, 9:23 pm

Two negatives definitely make a positive. Hope you get good news soon.

It seems ‘wrong’ that only a couple of weeks ago I was complaining about seeing armed police, complete with machine guns, at two of our local Christmas markets. There were concerns this week, that one of the markets has become too successful, too busy for peoples safety. I’m beginning to hate crowded places. So scary!
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby aero280 » December 12th, 2018, 11:35 pm

DIL is out of surgery. We got a message a couple of hours ago to say that she has regained consciousness and will be kept in hospital for observation.

They got up at 5.00am to be at the hospital for 7.00am. DS got home at 9.30pm. Best part of an hour's drive. He's now asleep...

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » December 13th, 2018, 9:04 am

Hope all is well Aero :luv: . And a hug to Grassy's mum too... :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » December 13th, 2018, 11:24 am

Fingers crossed for your daughter in law aero hope her surgery is a complete success

Amber - when the IRA were setting off bombs I was taken off tube trains so many times and rerouted that I got a kind of claustrophobia about being on them.. I'm fine now, And I did meet some interesting peopel helping them to get where they needed to go in the chaos.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » December 13th, 2018, 2:01 pm

I can't "do" undergrounds trains wherever I am. Never could. I had to give myself a serious talking to before I could get on Eurotunnel and then Eurostar. Mr R used to tease me something rotten because I thought nothing of going into St James' Park with 56,000 other people to watch a football match.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby aero280 » December 13th, 2018, 7:46 pm

DIL has started posting some brief comments on Facebook from her hospital bed. And the comments make sense too! :) So the signs are good for a full recovery. :tu: :tu:

Apparently the growth that they removed was described as "quite large" :o In the end she was in the operating theatre for 6 and a half hours. I wonder if there was only one surgeon working for the whole time. If it was he must be out on his feet...
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » December 13th, 2018, 8:20 pm

Found another batch of these in the hug-pot:

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 13th, 2018, 10:04 pm

Goodness aero, you really have to take your hat off to such people don't you. So pleased all seems well - pretty amazing that your DIL is already posting on social media!
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