Lighting a candle

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby slimpersoninside » December 24th, 2019, 10:01 pm

Sorry Smitch. Fingers crossed for Enid.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » December 24th, 2019, 10:06 pm

Aw. I do hope she’ll be ok, Smitch.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » December 29th, 2019, 2:49 pm

I’m having a distinct wobble. It’s the funeral tomorrow and I’m already teary and anxious, I’ve been ok all over Christmas but it’s as if it’s just really hitting me. I keep thinking that this will be my last visit to her home and that that part of my life is finally ending. I have spoken to her twice a week for the last 32 years, yet there is so much I still want to tell her, not least just how much she meant to me. She was a typical matter of fact Geordie woman and we didn’t discuss feelings, I regret not kissing her when I left her but I was so frightened that I might give her a cold or worse so didn’t. If only......

Need to pull my socks up.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Pepper Pig » December 29th, 2019, 2:56 pm

Oh BB. Have a hug. :hug: I’m so sorry. She will know how much she meant to you though.Take care and I hope the funeral goes well.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » December 29th, 2019, 2:59 pm

Bb :hug: :hug: :hug: :mug: :wave:

You didn’t say it all ... neither did I ... but they both knew how we felt and what they still mean to us. :hug:

Pop us in your pocket tomorrow along with some tissues and mint humbugs ... we’ll squeeze your hand when you need it xx
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » December 29th, 2019, 3:19 pm

Oh BB :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » December 29th, 2019, 3:43 pm

What Suffs said BB. And she knew how much she meant to you. She'll never leave you really. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 29th, 2019, 4:04 pm

There's some magical thread out there that is louder than actions, words or physical contact. It'll trip you up whenever you're not thinking, it'll connect you and make you smile. Let it hold you tight tomorrow safe in the knowledge that the unspoken bond was shared by you both and make it a special and fitting day. :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » December 29th, 2019, 6:12 pm

BB :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » December 29th, 2019, 10:35 pm

BB - found a bunch of these in the hug-pot
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » December 30th, 2019, 8:06 am

Thank you all, especially EM whose kind words resonated so well.

We are currently en route, I feel calmer today - knowing that you are all in my pocket along with a clean hankie helps.

It’s a beautiful morning, red skies giving way to a dusky pink.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » December 30th, 2019, 8:10 am

:hug: :hug: :hug: Bb .... thinking of you today xx
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby icelesley » December 30th, 2019, 8:21 am

BB :hug: :hug: :hug: I hope all goes well and you will feel better once the funeral is done and dusted :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby smitch » December 30th, 2019, 10:15 am

Hope it goes well today :hug: :hug:

Enid is having surgery today. Am feeing rather anxious.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 30th, 2019, 10:24 am

Sending love to all who need it today. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » December 31st, 2019, 8:53 am

It was a beautiful humanist celebration of her life, truly reflected her. She would have been so happy to see so many people turn out for her - a mark of how much she was loved.

I kept my composure mostly, but fell apart at the wake when my ex husband presented me with some of her jewellery. A very kind gesture from him and his brother, especially as they both have wives/partners.

Thank you all for your support.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » December 31st, 2019, 9:17 am

I'm so glad it was a fitting occasion BB. She would have wanted you to have some of her jewellery. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » December 31st, 2019, 9:28 am

It sounds like a perfect send off for someone who was much loved ... yet another lovely memory, albeit a sad occasion. :hug: :wave:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » December 31st, 2019, 10:45 am

Good to here it went well BB :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Pepper Pig » December 31st, 2019, 10:56 am

That’s so lovely BB. Now take care of yourself now the funeral is over. X
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Amber » January 2nd, 2020, 10:45 pm

That’s so thoughtful of exH.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » January 9th, 2020, 8:47 pm

Can I have a candle, please, for the husband of one of my former colleagues?
She sadly passed away on NYD - That Disease was the culprit.
The funeral will be a private family affair, but we will be making a collection for a charity - probably Marie Curie.
As she loved nature, we may also plant a tree in the peace Garden in her memory.
I need a hug - I knew her for years.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Gruney » January 9th, 2020, 8:50 pm

Will one from me do, Grassie? :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 9th, 2020, 9:04 pm

:hug: Grassy. :cry:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » January 9th, 2020, 9:27 pm

So sorry Grassy. A tree will be a lovely lasting memorial. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby slimpersoninside » January 9th, 2020, 9:30 pm

:hug: for you Grassy.

Can I have some positive thoughts for my sister please. She had a stroke last week and, now she's over the worst, we're hoping she recovers more of her faculties.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 9th, 2020, 10:51 pm

Many positive thought heading from here to your sister Slimpersoninside. Pa got his driving licence back and went pheasant shooting after recovering from a stroke. Fingers very crossed. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » January 10th, 2020, 7:10 am

Positive thoughts coming from here Slimpersoninside :hug:

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » January 10th, 2020, 8:20 am

Sending the flame of love to all Wildies and their loved ones who need it. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby icelesley » January 10th, 2020, 8:24 am

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » January 10th, 2020, 8:36 am

:hug: to grassy and slimpersononinside

The 40-something friend I mentioned who was diagnosed with breast cancer just before Christmas and was rushed in a week later to have a mastectomy has had some good news. They think they got it all out, so she is on radiotherapy now. I really did fear the worst as it was a type that doesn't manifest itself with a lump until it's got quite far, and they were asking questions before she got the results that made her think the worst. She's not out of the woods yet, but this is a relief.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » January 10th, 2020, 3:56 pm

More :hug: :hug: :hug: heading to Grassy and Slimpersoninside...

Herbi, that sounds like very positive news! :D
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby slimpersoninside » January 10th, 2020, 4:21 pm

Thank you all for your good wishes.

Herbie, that's good news!
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » February 11th, 2020, 8:46 pm

I'm worried.

Younger Sis is going through the same Stage Of Life as me. She's been having intermittent bleeding for a few weeks, so Mum took her for a blood test the other week. Not easy, as she hates needles even more than I do.
She's booked for a scan tomorrow, which will hopefully rule out That Disease. She's very low-risk, like me, but the risk is still there.

Mum & me are both worried sick - even our local church (where Mum is Churchwarden), has been praying for her.
She doesn't have most of the symptoms, but I'm still worrying.

Everything will be crossed tomorrow morning.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » February 11th, 2020, 9:30 pm

Fingers crossed and thinking of you all Grassy :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » February 11th, 2020, 10:16 pm

Hope all is well Grassy, :hug: :hug:

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Amber » February 11th, 2020, 11:33 pm

Thinking of you.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » February 11th, 2020, 11:53 pm

Sounds as though there are a lot of prayers and love for you all Grassy. Fingers crossed. :hug: :hug: .
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » February 12th, 2020, 10:17 am

Will keep all crossed Grassy.... :hug:

If it is any help (and sorry if it is too much information :) ), I had an episode of post-menopausal bleeding around 18 months ago. In my case, it proved to be benign polyps (which were removed via day surgery). PM bleeding nearly always (around 95% of the time) has a benign cause and if not, it's usually very treatable and easily cured so try not to worry too much.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby scullion » February 12th, 2020, 10:45 am

Seatallan wrote: I had an episode of post-menopausal bleeding around 18 months ago

me, too, three or four years ago. it was also benign, probably just a rise in hormones for some unknown reason. nothing found on examination and tests.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » February 12th, 2020, 11:00 am

Everything crossed for the scan :hug: Grassy
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » February 12th, 2020, 2:32 pm

Well - from what I've heard, everything went OK. They can't rule out That Disease 100%, but there was no sign of it on the scan.
However
She DOES have a thickened womb lining, which is fixable with a small op, so she's gone on a waiting list for that.
But NOTHING nasty has been found! :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel:

I cannot say enough how relieved I am. It would have torn me apart, had the result been the other way. It would have torn Mum apart too.
Relief all round! :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel: :kneel:

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » February 12th, 2020, 2:54 pm

So relieved for you all Grassy :hug: :D :cocktail: :cocktail: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Rainbow » February 12th, 2020, 11:21 pm

That's great news, Grassy. So pleased for all of you :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » February 13th, 2020, 12:25 am

Grassy - so glad - :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby icelesley » February 13th, 2020, 8:07 am

:hug: :hug: :hug: good news grassy, it must be a great relief :tu:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » February 13th, 2020, 2:24 pm

Excellent news Grassy. The thickened uterus lining is quite a common cause of PM bleeding and is related to hormone fluctuations. It's best dealt with because it can become pre-cancerous if left. Its very easy to treat and she should be fine. What a relief!! :D :tu:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby slimpersoninside » February 14th, 2020, 10:03 pm

Missed your original post Grassy but so glad to hear all is well :tu: :D .
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » February 18th, 2020, 12:15 am

I’ve just discovered that Caroline Flack did not, as reported in the press, live in Islington but in the flats next door to me, and that is where she died.

Somehow knowing she was so close makes it feel more upsetting

RIP Caroline, we didn’t know you were there but we miss you now you are gone
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » February 18th, 2020, 9:04 am

Oh that's sad Sue. Does bring it home more doesn't it?
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