Lighting a candle

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » January 12th, 2018, 12:45 pm

Patsy :hug: :hug: :hug: . What an original funeral!
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby PatsyMFagan » January 12th, 2018, 1:50 pm

Just reading it Zosh .... have just got back from Zumba, then lunch with some of the girlies ... then home, hot shower and settling down for a quiet afternoon ...
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » January 12th, 2018, 4:40 pm

Yes my dad and I used to to sing There is a Tavern in the Town in the car and argue about whether we hung our Heart or our Harp on the Weeping Willow tree (pretty sure it's harp)
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Ted sounds like something of a character, my condolences
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 12th, 2018, 5:26 pm

We hung our Harp Sue :tu:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby PatsyMFagan » January 12th, 2018, 9:56 pm

'Harp' does make more sense, but I was simply copying from his service sheet ... I would never have known the words although of course I know the tune ;)

Forgot to mention a couple of things he has said to his nephew that were also printed on his order of service :

"When I'm alone I talk to myself. That's the only time I hear anything worth listening to"

(Ted by the way lived without a tv, preferring just to listen to his beloved music or watch a film on a dvd player)

and finally:

"When I die, I'd like to be buried with the only woman in the Australian Cemetery. We could have a lot of fun down under"

(We have a an Anzac cemetery in our churchyard that has been wonderfully looked after by villagers since the end of WWII )
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 13th, 2018, 9:27 am

Aww bless him ... he sounds a real star! He must've left you all with some great memories :D
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » January 16th, 2018, 9:15 pm

Can I have a candle, please, for a colleague of mine?
Her niece has died after a stroke.
She was just 26 and only got married last year.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby TeresaFoodie » January 16th, 2018, 9:20 pm

Grassy, how very sad. My scented candle, blown out an hour ago, has now been relit for your colleague's niece. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby slimpersoninside » January 16th, 2018, 9:29 pm

Grassy, that's awful. I don't know how family and friends come to terms with losing a loved one so young.
No candles here I'm afraid but best wishes to all.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Rainbow » January 16th, 2018, 9:48 pm

Grassy, that is really sad. No candles here either, but best wishes to your colleague and family, that's so young to have a stroke :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » January 17th, 2018, 1:26 pm

That is indeed too young and very sad. Condolences to friends and family.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » January 17th, 2018, 1:31 pm

So sorry Grassy... :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 17th, 2018, 2:10 pm

Grassy :hug: :cry:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » January 17th, 2018, 2:51 pm

Grassy - :hug: :hug: what a shock and so sad. xx
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » January 17th, 2018, 9:10 pm

Poor little soul was in bits on Monday morning. She was so upset, our line manager offered to give her some time off, but she wanted to keep busy. She didn't need this to happen - she's expecting her second baby in July - and it's the first one's B-day on Sunday.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby EmWilk » January 26th, 2018, 10:31 pm

My grandad eventually came home after making a good recovery. He was home last Friday I think. He's been readmitted today though at 5:30am and has just been put on a ward where he is said to be very very poorly with pneumonia, flu, sepsis and he's had a small heart attack.

I dont know what to do.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby aero280 » January 26th, 2018, 11:04 pm

That's very difficult. I think that all you can do is keep in touch with other members of the family and support each other while the hospital do what they need to do to help him recover again.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » January 26th, 2018, 11:50 pm

Oh em, I'm so sorry. Aero is quite right, all of you who love your grandad need to support each other as well. I don't suppose it falls on you to be the one to make sure he has all he needs in hospital and that his needs are understood by staff (for instance making sure they know if he has a hearing or sight defect) but do what you can to help and listen to whichever member of the family that is.

Otherwise, you just have to know that he is being cared for by professionals - he will know and feel already that you love and care about him. If you are allowed to visit then just quietly being there for a while speaks volumes. It is at times like this that short periods of mediation, prayer or whatever form of quiet time you like without the outside world butting in can be very comforting for some, perhaps with music :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » January 27th, 2018, 12:48 am

So sorry Em :hug: :hug: :hug:

But can only reiterate what the others have said, keep communicating and supporting each other, there isn't anything to do as such as he needs professional care just now
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby TeresaFoodie » January 27th, 2018, 1:02 am

Goodness Em, sad times for you, my thoughts are with you all. You, your family, the professionals seem to be helping each other which I think is something to keep reminding yourself of at this time. You all sound strong through this sad time. Lots and lots of these tonight to you all. :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Rocky » January 27th, 2018, 2:51 am

Em :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » January 27th, 2018, 7:31 am

:hug: :hug: EM, thoughts and prayers for your grandad.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 27th, 2018, 7:41 am

Thinking of your grandad and all who love and care for him :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » January 27th, 2018, 9:50 am

Em. I'm thinking of you, your grandad and the people who love him. :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby jrc » January 27th, 2018, 10:09 am

EM. Just :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Chinchilla_lady » January 27th, 2018, 10:52 am

Sending caring loving thoughts for Em;s grandad and all who need them, :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby EmWilk » January 27th, 2018, 4:59 pm

:cry: Thanks all... sadly my lovely grandad died this morning with my grandma and their 3 kids (my mum, uncle and auntie) with him. He said he wanted them to be together and he waited until my uncle managed to rush back from his driving job at 2:30am before he departed 15 minutes later at 2:45. I think he'd had enough, he said to me last time I saw him that it was no fun getting old and I reckon he's onto something.

Thanks for the wishes all though, they must've worked as he was very peaceful so I'm told.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby mogatogs » January 27th, 2018, 5:07 pm

Em :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby smitch » January 27th, 2018, 5:28 pm

Sorry to hear your sad news :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Pepper Pig » January 27th, 2018, 5:33 pm

Em, I am so sorry. Love to you all.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Chinchilla_lady » January 27th, 2018, 6:19 pm

Em :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: I am glad Grandads passing was peaceful with his loved ones around him :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby StokeySue » January 27th, 2018, 6:45 pm

Sorry to here your news, my condolences to you all :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » January 27th, 2018, 7:28 pm

Em. So sorry to hear the news. If you loved your grandad as much as I loved mine, and I'm sure you did you must be so sad. :hug: :hug: Be glad though that his passing was peaceful and he was surrounded by those he wanted to be there. Now it's your little Leo's turn. Lucky him to have known his great grandad :luv: :luv: :luv:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 27th, 2018, 7:36 pm

Em :hug: He was a lucky man to have been so loved.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Amber » January 27th, 2018, 9:04 pm

Em, I’m so sorry to hear your news, but what a lovely way to go, surrounded by family and love. And as he said, he was ready for it. Your poor grandma. :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Busybee » January 27th, 2018, 9:48 pm

So sorry for your loss Em, I hope you find comfort in that his passing was peaceful and how he wanted it. Love to you all.

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Zosherooney » January 27th, 2018, 10:25 pm

Em, sincere condolences, he is at rest, no suffering and seems he decided the right time to depart.... not easy for those left behind.. love to you all :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby TeresaFoodie » January 27th, 2018, 10:33 pm

Em, many of these to you and your family. :hug: :hug: You are obviously very strong to have been able to post here, but I remember I was trying to put a brave face on and also stay strong for my lot when my granddad passed away and I didn't give myself time to grieve myself, I couldn't even cry one tear, so be kind to yourself and do make sure you go through the grieving process properly. Just remember he obviously knew how much he was loved. :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Herbidacious » January 27th, 2018, 11:34 pm

so sorry to hear that, Em :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby icelesley » January 28th, 2018, 8:19 am

:hug: :hug: :hug: Em and all the family.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby jrc » January 28th, 2018, 11:13 am

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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby earthmaiden » January 28th, 2018, 12:18 pm

I'm so sorry em. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby slimpersoninside » January 28th, 2018, 5:22 pm

Sorry to hear Em. Take care :hug: .
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Seatallan » January 28th, 2018, 6:33 pm

Only just seen this... so sorry dear EM. It was his time and he was surrounded by love. He'll always be with you. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » January 28th, 2018, 8:52 pm

EM - :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Can I have a candle, please, for one of the cleaners at 'W'? One of her grandsons has been in hosp these past two weeks with meningitis. He's been so ill that the family thought they were going to lose him. He's not out of the woods yet, but he is hopefully on the mend. He's only eight, poor little soul.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby EmWilk » January 28th, 2018, 11:55 pm

Thanks everyone.

Grassy, how awful, I hope he gets better soon. The thought makes me so upset, especially since I've had the little 'un. Best wishes.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby karadekoolaid » January 29th, 2018, 11:34 am

RIP for granpa, Em.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Ratatouille » January 29th, 2018, 1:10 pm

Grassy I do hope the little one will get better soon.
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby Grasshopper » January 31st, 2018, 8:37 pm

Meant to post this yesterday But didn't have time.

Little fella is out of hosp now :kneel: :hi5: :hug:
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Re: Lighting a candle

Postby suffolk » January 31st, 2018, 9:12 pm

Grassy :tu: :tu: :tu: :D
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