Looking after our parents (part 2)

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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby WWordsworth » October 7th, 2018, 1:38 pm

Last night mother chose a simple margherita pizza and devoured probably 65% of it, accompanied by a cinzano bianco and tonic :shock:
She was as right as ninepence again this morning.
J caught her trying to crush one of her tablets with a hammer though :rolleyes:

I have to say the aroma of cinzano bianco took me back to the 1970s.
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby Ratatouille » October 7th, 2018, 1:48 pm

That is just wonderful WW. So glad you both enjoyed it.
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby Seatallan » October 7th, 2018, 3:42 pm

suffolk wrote:They took far more notice of her than they ever did of me because I was their daughter


Absolutely Suffs! :D

It's the same with other people's mums in my experience. Always far easier to deal with a friend's mum than your own. My dear departed friend had a very spiky relationship with her mum (both before and after she started to suffer from dementia) but she's generally good as gold with me. Whereas my mum thought dear, departed friend knew far more than I did. ;)
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby Amber » October 7th, 2018, 10:23 pm

Ooh, I could just fancy a Cinzano Branco now. Neat for me though.

My mum wouldn’t listen to me, her only child, at all, but on the other hand, everything my husband said, or did, was ‘perfect’. :cry:
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby WWordsworth » October 8th, 2018, 3:44 pm

Yep, if I know there will be resistance I get J to speak to her.
Never fails.
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby scullion » October 9th, 2018, 7:51 am

Amber wrote:My mum wouldn’t listen to me [...] at all, but on the other hand, everything my husband said, or did, was ‘perfect’.

same here.
i only came out of nappies (metaphorically) when i had my first child and the only time she said that i was more intelligent than both her and my brother was (on the way back from college in london) over a crossword - because, she said, i knew when i didn't know an answer and they would carry on trying to think of it!
nothing at all to do with iq or level of tertiary education.
my daughter, as a teenager, was listened to more than me - i think i came at the bottom of the 'intelligence ladder' where my mother was concerned - well bellow the carers, our cat and her coffee table!
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby earthmaiden » October 9th, 2018, 9:15 am

There is of course the other way round. After a lifetime of being put down by my mother she would gushingly sing my praises to all and sundry once in the care home. She had chosen a care home which was nearly a 6 hour return trip for me so her welfare and the extensive care required really was in the hands of the lovely staff there. I probably visited on average for a few
hours every 10 days. I would cringe as she told them how wonderful I was and how I did so much for her.
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby suffolk » October 9th, 2018, 9:24 am

For the last year or so Ma frequently had no idea who I was ... but as she she said once I was probably someone important ... possibly the family solicitor ...
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Re: Looking after our parents (part 2)

Postby WWordsworth » October 9th, 2018, 9:34 am

I think my pal summed it up perfectly - a few of us were at mother's house, one person had not met her before.
She said "isn't Wordsworth's Mum a lovely woman"
Pal responded - quite accurately - "Yes, to everyone except Wordsworth"

As I teenager I would avoid being alone with her because she would always tell me I was fat, spotty, my hair was a mess etc
Never did it in front of other people.
Thinking about it, I still avoid being alone with her
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